Love is supposed to be the easiest thing to do yet so hard to truly understand, entlik to practice for most in our generation – mix that with adulting then it becomes even more complicated. Despite all of this, there are ones that have it right. That sweet spot two people have found, getting together and making it work is too beautiful. How do ya’ll find that vele?
I’ve been sucker for love for as long as I can remember (I blame The Bold le Days, watched too much of those when I grew up lol) and even without seeing some inspiration at home I managed to recognize them in my surroundings. Like bo mama Letta Mbulu and Caiphus Semenya and a lot of the well known couples. One couple, actually one person I think I adopted this behavior from is my sister Lerato – she’s her name. I’ve seen her do this love thing and try teach me mara nna I’m forever struggling 🙄 her story is the first one to go and maybe you can get some insight there.
After my biggest emotional roller coaster ride, 2017 was my year to heal (again) and I went through a lot of things trying to put my heart back together. I did some very temporary healing to actually think of it coz I’ve been very angry towards males because…
Yazi I feel like I got this look a lot when I was busy advocating …
… because months later I met 🦁 – hmmm I would continue mara it’s a story for another blog post (I wrote paragraphs and paragraphs about this someborrrriii because I’m such an emotional writer ho feta when I talk… maybe I should reconsider my career path watseba).
There’s one question in my series where I ask couples to how they overcome the little struggles that come every now and then because that’s probably where the magic is. This makes me randomly think of Cardi B’s Bodak Yellow – it was our song of the year in disguise coz it complimented the #menaretrash notion hanyane. How? Okay, here’s a nice scenario – you’re with the girls, discussing guys because you’ve beeeeeen obvs tired of some of their behaviors 🙄🙄🙄 and the song plays… which part do sing with power? 🙃 “And I’m quick, cut a nigga off, don’t get comfortable” (I know the real lyric ema ha nyane). 😂😂😂😂 I don’t care which stage of the relationship you are in but there’s spirit in those words because mahn guys have been trifling. Hmmm you’ll see how the couples manage to deal with the downside of their relationships – maybe it can work for you and I!?
I’m a contradiction in general nna – I’m the first one to march for “love lives here” and be there when there’s a CTA for “men are trash”. I know I’m a lot… so will I ever come right? Lol, I’m praying I will after this phela I also want to be like other kids hao…
So where are you currently? Let me put it in meme language:
We’ve asked couples with relationships over 3 years to share answers to this relationship past exam paper mara no one has come forward so nna I’ve gone, asked the questions and got some answers myself. I spoke to a few couples who are going to share their unique love stories and I hope you get some inspiration as much as I did (they are my #couplegoals BTW) and it’s a plus since it’s also the month of love ♥ I’m super excited about this one.
PS: I’ve compiles a lovely playlist for ambiance. Comment with your favorite love song and I’ll add it to the list – keep the energy flowing
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