Back in 2007 while I was home from school, watched Precious Kofi on TV….. Her charisma and great personally caught my attention yet above all that it was the big afro that glued me to her show.
Growing up having “growth” showing under your relaxed hair was seen as something wrong and that it was sign to “Fix your hair”. Every time I would watch that show I would ask myself how does she walk around with such big hair and how did she even get that presenting job with that hair. I mean it looked “unprofessional” at least that’s what I thought then, see I grew up with the mentality that my hair needed to be fixed. That there was something wrong with black women’s natural hair, that the curls had to be straightened and the hair had to be straight from root to tip.
Although going to the salon to relax my hair was a nightmare as I have a very sensitive scalp, I mean I changed hair relaxing products about 6 times with no luck of getting any that didn’t burn my scalp. I just ended up accepting that it had to be painful and that “pretty hurts”.
It was only up until 2010 were I decided to cut my hair and go short… That don’t really go well, I felt ugly honestly or maybe that was what I was made to believe. I was a teenager and my friends would laugh and mock me saying “I looked like a boy”. I then decided to do braids and cornrows an stop relaxing my hair.
To my surprise my natural hair was actually naturally soft, but I don’t know how to maintain it. So I always had braids on all the time, then I struggled with hairline. By then I had no idea that there’s even natural hair products, or that I had to stop using harsh chemicals on my hair and even the fact that when I go to the salon I should ask them to not pull my edges nor my hair as a whole. Like, I didn’t even know what edges were I was a township girl that just admired a celebrity’s hair.
Since 2010 I think I cut my hair about 7 times until 2014 were I did research on how to grow my natural hair, how to maintain it… To my surprise I even ended up learning that even we have different hair types🙊. I had to study my hair and the routine that works best for my 4c type hair.
Today my hair is growing, healthy and I wear it with so much confidence and the beauty of it is that I can wear it up and down without burning my scalp.